It’s OK to Not Feel OK
Most people have a goal of feeling happy. While there’s nothing wrong with that, it is important to acknowledge all of your feelings. To allow yourself to feel and process them. With so much focus on happiness and positivity, you may feel that it is the only option, and that feeling any other way is not acceptable. Then when you are not happy, you want to push those feelings aside. You may feel that something is wrong with you. That is not true. What is true is that you are human.
Experiencing a full range of emotions is part of the human experience. Allow yourself to feel your painful, unwanted emotions with self-compassion and without judgment.
While I speak a lot about positivity and positive psychology, I always start with the message that this is never at the expense of suppressing or ignoring the painful emotions. Never at the expense of numbing yourself. Personal growth and healing take place when you allow yourself to acknowledge when you are not happy, allow yourself to feel, and take steps to work through it, including seeking help if needed.
Working through can take several forms, and that is what my next book is about. It’s being launched on 11/18/20. Simple, doable methods to feel better, even on your worst day. But it starts with acknowledging your pain. It is OK not to feel OK. Especially now. Give yourself some grace. Give yourself some compassion.