Inspiring Words

Here I am sharing some thoughts from my experiences in my clinical and forensic practice, as well as through my role as a mother of three children, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and a friend.

Mindfulness Exercises for Teens and Tweens (and adults too)!

There is good reason that you may have been hearing more about mindfulness lately. People have been practicing mindfulness for years, and the mental health benefits of mindfulness for addressing stress, anxiety, depression, anger, and frustration are becoming more well-known. In addition to addressing troubling emotions, practicing mindfulness increases overall life satisfaction and fosters a sense of peace.

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Advice Regarding Resolutions and Goals

It is that time of year when you might be thinking about your resolutions, devising ways of improving your life during the upcoming year and beyond. Before creating and tackling your resolutions, love yourself for exactly who you are now. Appreciate exactly where you are in your life now. Look back on how far you have come! With increased self-love and appreciation, you will have more success in achieving your goals in the future. And don’t forget to celebrate all of your accomplishments along the way. The journey to your goal is just as rewarding and fulfilling as achieving the goal.

12 Major Types of Cognitive Distortions That Can Affect Mood and Behavior

In my work with my clients, I often use cognitive behavioral therapy. The basic idea behind cognitive behavioral therapy is that our thoughts influence our feelings, and that our feelings influence our behavior. In order to address feelings and/or behavior that we want to change, we often have to start with our thoughts. There are several different maladaptive thought patterns (“cognitive distortions”) that contribute to unwanted feelings and behavior. Here is a list of 12 common ones that can zap your happiness and life satisfaction. Recognizing and becoming more aware of the thought patterns we tend to use begins the process of changing them and replacing them with more positive and realistic thinking.  Within each example, I provide an example of a cognitive distortion, as well as “The Fix” – a more realistic and/or positive thought.

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Ten Ideas to Make the Most of Family Dinners

Family dinners are so important. Yet in today’s busy families, family members are sitting down to eat dinner together less and less often. Studies have demonstrated a correlation between family dinners and mental and physical health in children, improved social skills, improved grades, and the avoidance of engaging in teen risky behavior, including substance use. Here are some suggestions to make the most out of family dinner time.

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The Importance of Family Rituals

The questions of my clients often provide me with ideas to write about.  Here’s one that repeatedly comes up!


These days with video games, computer games, television, scheduled activities and sports, and the Internet, it seems that I am competing with so many different things for family time, which my seven year old child used to enjoy. What can I do to make what little family time we have more special and meaningful?

My response:

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Five Simple Things to Do Today (and Every Day) to Show Love for Your Children

  1.  Put down the devices! If you are eating a meal together, leave all electronics off the table. If you are watching your child play soccer, resist the urge to look at your phone. While looking at your phone, you may not miss the play of the year, but your child may see your distraction and receive the message that your phone is more important than watching him/her play.
  2. Say “Thank you”. Even if you had to ask/tell your child 100 times to clean his/her room, do chores, etc., when it is done, say, “Thank you.” Everyone wants to be appreciated, especially for completing undesirable tasks. Don’t worry – saying “thank you” for something that is expected and necessary does not undermine the fact that it is expected.
  3. Say, “I love you.” Yes, it is important to show love. But it is also important to say it. I have evaluated over 2,000 adults in my private practice. One of my interview questions is to ask adults how their parents showed their love, and if they ever said it. I am struck by the sadness in the adults’ voices who never heard a parent say it. These adults may have been shown it, but they wanted their parents to say it. These adults in turn have a more difficult time saying, “I love you” to their own children, who also need to hear it. So say it in the morning, say it sending your child off to school, say it at bedtime.
  4. Sneak a love note in your child’s lunch or school folder. Or leave it on your child’s pillow. Yep, even for your teenager. Especially your teenager.
  5. Spend some time alone together, just you and your child, even if it just for five minutes. Remove all distractions, and really pay attention to what your child is saying. Or not saying. Just BE together, in the absence of laundry, siblings, homework, devices.  Sit together in quiet stillness, or pick a topic and talk about it. Just BE together and connect. For great conversation starters, check out